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IELTS Task 2 Writings

Why solo trips are essential, even when you have a partner or kids?

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Happily married with two kids and always vacationing as a family.Does this sound like your story? Then keep reading.You’ve probably heard people say, “It was so much fun when I was single, but things have changed now that I’m married and have kids.”

For many, once a relationship deepens or a family grows, self-care quietly takes a backseat. Prioritising others' needs and happiness often becomes the default - even if it means sacrificing something that once brought you immense joy. Solo travel is often one of the first casualties.

First, society doesn’t make it any easier. The moment you mention travelling alone post-marriage or post-kids, the raised eyebrows and unsolicited comments begin. “How can you enjoy yourself alone?” or “Won’t you feel guilty leaving your kids behind?” These are just a couple of the judgemental remarks people endure.

However, Suppressing your passion - especially something as fulfilling as solo travel - does no good. Neglecting what you love only takes a toll on your mental well-being, and in the long run, this can affect your relationships too.An Indian household typical when a girl just randomly asks her parents – can I visit Goa with my college friends, please? Or let’s say she asks – I am going on a solo trip to Himachal Pradesh. Could you lend me some money? The cliché response would be – shaadi ke baad jahaan jana hai jao, not before!

And then, after some years, when that girl finally gets married – she has a so-called “permanent travelling partner” for life. So, when is it her time to go and explore the world solo? More than men, it’s women who often have to give up on their aspirations and hobbies. However, irrespective of your relationship status, gender, or profession, everyone should travel solo, and experts highly recommend it.

Nevertheless, travelling solo allows people to explore their preferences, dislikes, goals, and visions for life. It cultivates a sense of autonomy and freedom that is crucial for personal growth.“In the Indian context, where societal norms often emphasise the collective ‘we’ system, marriage or relationships are frequently associated with a sense of responsibility. A solo trip, therefore, becomes a form of self-care, helping you nurture your individuality while still existing as a partner to someone else.

Also solo travel can work wonders for mental health. It breaks the monotony, reduces stress, and fosters new perspectives.Indian women, in particular, can feel empowered through solo trips, reclaiming agency over their lives.It’s about independence and self-reliance, giving women a sense of empowerment," she states.

Taking a solo trip doesn’t mean distancing yourself from your partner; it strengthens trust. "Solo travel challenges partners to respect each other's need for autonomy while creating security in the relationship.

However, not all partners are comfortable with the idea of solo travel. Some partners may resist due to insecurity or fear of losing control. Address these concerns with empathy and clarity. This approach helps maintain understanding and trust.

Having kids doesn’t mean you should give up solo trips, involving family or hiring help during your absence and starting with shorter, nearby trips. Solo travel sets an example for children about the importance of self-care. Parents taking time for themselves WILL return refreshed and better equipped to handle family responsibilities.

by Tiasa